Working it out at Home

I’ve listened quietly for weeks as the world around me seems to be unraveling. The comment was "silence is violence" in reference to not participating in the blackout. It was my breaking point.

Silence is violence?  Um nope, aggression and looting is violence. Taking more lives for a lost life (including more black lives-RIP David Dorn and David Patrick Underwood) is violence.  Adding more judgement is violence. But silence, my friends, is not violence.

Silence can be praying, listening, watching and learning.  I'm silently sorting through how to walk my biracial children through a world that says we must be divided and this is where I've landed.  Change comes through many avenues but mostly through personal ownership.  Personal ownership of racism would have to come through very personal and intimate conversations.  Intimate conversation can only happen in a real-life relationships and not on social media.  How can we be change-makers? Relationship. We can go out and love our neighbors.  We can be kind to the checker or waitress who is serving us. We can make friends with someone unlike us.  We can be ok with having differing viewpoints with our friends but also the courage to have the conversations anyway.  We can model acceptance and love for those different than us for our children. 

My children, they watch their parents, two different colors wrestling with this world together.  They watch us disagree and fail.  They also watch us learn from each other, love and grow.  We will not be divided.  We are a family.  I may often be silent here on social media but rest assured it is because I believe that I can make the most difference between my four walls. I’m listening, I’m praying and I’m trying to help my family work it out at home. 

Working it out at home~The Mrs.